"And Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit." Luke 1:41
The Holy Spirit is just as active today as in Elizabeth's time! Like Mary's cousin, we too are often fill with this spirit of generosity, excitement, hopefulness and care for others.
Tom's Talk 12/19/21
GRIEF AND THE HOLIDAYS - PART 3
The Rev. Tom Baker
If you feel you must shop, pick a time when the store is not crowded, such as when they first open. Try asking someone to go with you or if it all seems just too much shop on line.
Lower the demand and expectations on yourself. You don’t have to attend every party. Be careful, however, if you find yourself declining every invitation and postponing all activities. Push yourself to attend events with close friends, family, or where you feel most at ease.
Traditions are the most difficult part of the holidays for those who grieve.
The death of a loved one can change the meaning
and even take the joy out of a holiday tradition.
However, this can also be a time to start new traditions that will both honor and remember your loved one as well as bring you and your family healing and hope.
If you always hosted a meal and served the same food, perhaps try changing the menu. You can ask someone else to be the host. Some have found that eating out can reduce stress and anxiety.
Open gifts at a different time or place.
Some who grieve find going away on a short trip during the holidays is a welcome change.
Before the holidays it’s a good idea to sit down and talk with other family members or friends about your expectations for the holiday. You may not all agree but you can at least find out if there may be conflict before the actual holiday arrives. Be honest with each other about your feelings and the feeling of others. Remember, you may of experienced the same loss but you can have different feelings.
The Importance of Memorials
Memorializing your loved one is a wonderful way of helping you and your family heal. Choose an activity that your loved one liked to do or would have approved of to make it more meaningful. Try to do something with your whole family that way it will strengthen the bonds of your love for each other.
If you need to find time to be alone to remember your loved one, however you choose to do so, it’s important that you find the time and place this holiday season.
Some memorial suggestions from bereaved persons
• Purchase a small evergreen tree from a nursery, decorate it, and then in remembrance of your loved one replant it after Christmas.
• Light special small memorial candles each day during the holidays or use one large candle and light it each day (never leave a candle unattended).
• Display a single fresh flower during the holiday.
• Have a special time when the family can share holiday memories of your loved one.
• Offer a dinner prayer or toast to your loved one.
• Purchase a gift for your loved one and donate it to charity.
• Give the amount of money you would have spent on a gift to a charity in the deceased’s name.
Sun. Dec. 19 8:45 am: Adult Forum
10:00 am: Worship Service
11:00 am Greening of the Churchand Refreshments
Tue. Dec 21 6:30 pm: Blue Christmas/Longest Night Service
Wed. Dec. 22 12:00 pm: Noon Day Prayer-Facebook Live
7:00 pm: Advent Wreath Lighting Service-Facebook
Thurs. Dec. 23Center of Grace Outreach -See Below for Details
Fri, Dec. 24: 6:30 pm: Candle Light Christmas Eve Service
Sun, Dec 26: 10 am: Lessons and Carols with Eucharist
If you have a Christmas Memorial Donation, there will be envelopes available at St. Aidan's on Sunday, December 19.There also will be an insert in the envelope to write out the name(s) of friends and relatives you are remembering.
If you wish, you can also mail a check to St. Aidan's and mark Memorial on it, and send the names of those you are remembering.
For online giving, for those using technology, please go to our website:
Or if you would like to donate through other means, Please contact Tim Tatlock at 913-764-3050
Help For Tornado Victims
On Friday and Saturday, December 10 and 11, a line of severe weather spread across the central United States, spawning over 50 tornadoes. Many lives were lost in these storms, and homes and businesses were severely damaged or destroyed. Episcopal Relief & Development is in contact with the affected dioceses as they assess the needs in their communities and stands ready to assist in the coming days and weeks. Please pray for the people impacted by the deadly tornadoes. Donations to theUS Disaster Fundwill support Episcopal Relief & Development and its partners as they respond.
Advent Wreath Candle Lighting Service
Wednesday 12/22 at 7 pm.
Please join us for the candle lighting services on Facebook Live.
Center of Grace: Thursday, December 23
St. Aidan's helps prepare and hand out meals at Center of Grace in Olathe, on the fourth Thursday of the month. This month it is Dec. 23.
We would appreciate your help by bringing individually wrapped desserts for the Center of Grace to St. Aidan's by 2 pm on Thursday, Dec. 23.
Join us for Adult Forum on Sunday mornings at 8:45.- 9:15. Our Sunday Forum during December
will be reflections on the Sunday Service.
No Adult Forum Dec. 26 or Jan. 2
ANGEL TREE UPDATE!
Thank you to all for the kindness and generosity you have shown for the Angel Tree ministry.
Daughters of the King will be delivering the gifts the week of December 19th.
Please call if you have any questions or concerns.
Carolyn Sturgeon- 913-499-9375 or
Barb Belt - 913-515-9001
Living Well Through Advent
A free PDF or on line copy of Living Well Through Advent is available at the link below.
The Rev. Lisa Senuta, Canon for Spiritual Formation and Clergy Care for our Diocese is one of the contributors.
“I would like to share with you an initiative from the National Episcopal Church's office of the Most Rev. Michael Curry. "Sustaining Earth, Our Island Home" tackles the Episcopal Church's pledge for the care of creation and provides support for individuals and parishes seeking to take those incremental steps toward living in a more sustainable, moral manner when it comes to the impact we have upon the Earth and our capacity to continue to live on it. To paraphrase Bishop Bascom the biggest environmental problems are not biodiversity, water usage, or climate change but greed, selfishness, and apathy.
To learn more about this program, please visit http://www.sustainislandhome.org/ and enroll yourself in this program. Please remember to list St. Aidan’s, Olathe as your parish. Our Bishop will reward the parish with the most participation.”