NOTE:I have added Blue Christmas and Christmas Eve Services to the Bottom of the ROTA. Servers for those services have not yet been assigned.If you know you will be available for either Christmas service, please let me know by Dec. 12.Thanks to those who have already replied.
Also, please find your replacement if you are unable to serve on your Sunday. Then please let me know.
In reply (John the Baptist) said to them, "Whoever has two coats must share with anyone who has none; and whoever has food, must do likewise." Luke 3:11
When the crowds asked John how they should live, his answers were very specific. So with our Christmas feelings of peace and goodwill... we need to transform them into specific acts of charity and concern for others.
Tom's Talk 12/12/21
GRIEF AND THE HOLIDAYS - PART 2
The Rev. Tom Baker
It's Okay to Feel Sad
The holidays are filled with demands “to be happy.” Even people who have not experienced a major loss can feel the pressure, sadness, and tiredness that can come with the holidays.
We all need to accept that there will be times when we feel sad. Allow yourself to feel sad, especially if you are grieving. People who suffered a death have every right to feel sad and anxious.
It's Okay to Feel Happy
We all need to have a good laugh, feel good, and even have fun. Someone who is grieving can feel guilty if they find themselves enjoying an activity.
Feeling good and laughing is a way for you to relax and regain some strength for a few moments during your grief. It is normal and healthy reaction. You are not being disrespectful to the memory of your loved one.
Tears Are Healing
Don’t fight away the tears. You don’t have to be strong. Crying can be embarrassing -yet allowing yourself to cry when you need to leads to healing.
Tears are natural and a sign of your love not weakness. If we did not love - we would not grieve.
Crying helps you both physically, emotionally, and helps to reduce stress.
Go easy on yourself, remember grief affects your body, your thinking, feelings, relationships, and work – grief impacts everything about you.
If you want the holidays to be the same as they always were – you are in for disappointment and frustration. You will not feel as happy as you did during past holidays. This does not mean you cannot enjoy the day, even smile and laugh. It takes time to heal.
Confide in Someone
Find someone who will listen to you and provide support. You’re welcome to reach out any time to our Rector, Fr. Tom by calling our church at (913) 764-3050.
Someone who will let you say what you need to, even if you say it over and over again.
This person can be a trusted family member, friend, professional grief counselor, or a grief group.
Part III: COPING WITH HOLIDAY ACTIVITIES
Life at St. Aidan's
Be Our Guest Coffee Hour Treats
Clarice Ewing Tying
Blue Ribbons on the
Outdoor Advent wreath
at St. Aidan's
Sunday, Dec. 12 - Third Sunday of Advent
8:45 am: Adult Forum
10:00 am: Sunday Worship Service
... In Person worship and on Facebook Live
11:15 am: Coffee and refreshments
11:15 am: St. Bridget's Chapter of DOK Meeting
12:00 pm: Noon Day Prayer - Live on Facebook
7:00 pm: Advent Wreath Lighting Service - Live on Facebook
If you have a Christmas Memorial Donation, there will be envelopes available at St. Aidan's on Sunday, December 12.There also will be an insert in the envelope to write out the name(s) of friends and relatives you are remembering.
If you wish, you can also mail a check to St. Aidan's and mark Memorial on it, and send the names of those you are remembering..
For online giving, for those using technology, please go to our website:
Or if you would like to donate through other means, Please contact Tim Tatlock at 913-764-3050
ANGEL TREE UPDATE!
Thank you to all for the kindness and generosity you have shown for the Angel Tree ministry. Nearly all of the “ Angels” have been selected for gifts. As you share a gift, you are helping to spread God’s love for all children and families of incarcerated parents.
This Sunday, December 12th , is the date to return your wrapped gift, with the Angel attached, to the church. If there is a problem, the church is open on Tuesday & Thursday from 9-2, you can drop off your gift this week. Daughters of the King will be delivering the gifts the week of December 19th. We gladly accept monetary donations to help buy gifts for children or their caregivers. Just make a check to St Aidan’s and put Angel Tree in the memo line.
Please call if you have any questions or concerns.
Carolyn Sturgeon- 913-499-9375 or
Barb Belt - 913-515-9001
Advent Wreath Candle Lighting ServiceS
Wednesdays 12/15; 12/22 at 7 pm.
Please join us for the candle lighting services on Facebook Live.
Christmas Service Schedule - December 2021
Dec. 21: Blue Christmas Worship Service at 6:30 pm
Dec. 24: Christmas Eve Worship Service at 6:30 pm
Dec. 26: Lessons and Carols -Sunday Serviceat 10 am
Join us for Adult Forum on Sunday mornings at 8:45.- 9:15. Our Sunday Forum during December
will be reflections on the Sunday Service.
Living Well Through Advent
A free PDF or on line copy of Living Well Through Advent is available at the link below.
The Rev. Lisa Senuta, Canon for Spiritual Formation and Clergy Care for our Diocese is one of the contributors.
“I would like to share with you an initiative from the National Episcopal Church's office of the Most Rev. Michael Curry. "Sustaining Earth, Our Island Home" tackles the Episcopal Church's pledge for the care of creation and provides support for individuals and parishes seeking to take those incremental steps toward living in a more sustainable, moral manner when it comes to the impact we have upon the Earth and our capacity to continue to live on it. To paraphrase Bishop Bascom the biggest environmental problems are not biodiversity, water usage, or climate change but greed, selfishness, and apathy.
To learn more about this program, please visit http://www.sustainislandhome.org/ and enroll yourself in this program. Please remember to list St. Aidan’s, Olathe as your parish. Our Bishop will reward the parish with the most participation.”